Can I do that?

Can I do that?

Can I do that? This is a question that people often ask themselves in life when they find themselves in new, uncertain, unclear situations that require some changes, action, or making important decisions. We often ask ourselves if we can do something we already know we can. When I ask myself if I can do that, does that mean that I am a suspect in advance – doubt my own abilities? Are the skills that people lack to start from the deadlock? In most situations, lack of ability is not a problem.

What is the main factor of success or failure?

It is a question of motivation, more precisely lack of motivation. Motivation is just as important as ability. Without motivation, it is not possible to achieve any goal, regardless of the fact that the person has the necessary abilities and competencies. Motivation can change significantly in contrast to abilities that are fairly fixed.

With that in mind, the real question you need to ask yourself is not whether I can do it, but do I really want it? Or, do I want it enough? If not, why not? When a person really wants something, he/she can achieve it. What is wanted strongly enough is almost always achieved. One way or another, sooner or later, it came true.

When does the problem arise?

Problems arise when a person does not want something enough and at the same time consciously deceives (convinces) himself that he wants it. That’s a common case, isn’t it? A person does not want to admit to himself that there are actually some reasons why he is not warm enough for a given goal. On the one hand, the goal is attractive, and on the other hand, it is not. Another case is that the goal is attractive, but there are certain obstacles that a person does not want to face.

Can I do that?

How does a person assess how motivated he or she is to achieve a goal? Motivation to achieve a goal is equal to the relationship between the attractiveness of the goal (the profit a person expects to receive when he achieves that goal) and the estimated amount of effort a person needs to put in to achieve that goal.

The problem with motivation arises when:

1. The person perceives the goal as insufficiently attractive

2. when a person perceives that he must make more effort to achieve the goal than the person is ready at a given moment

4. when the profit from the goal is short-term

5. when the achievement of the goal represents compensation for a problem

6. when achieving a goal creates some new problems

7. when a person is afraid of failure

8. when the person is not ready to take responsibility for the consequences that may arise from achieving the goal

Estimates may be realistic or less realistic. Some people tend to believe that goals should be achieved without much effort. Some people are not realistic in assessing how attractive their goal is, because they tend to favor what is attractive and deny and minimize what is not attractive. Unrealistic assessments often lead to a drop in motivation when a person is forced to face reality.

Can I do that?

The goal should not be the solution to the problem

If there is a problem, you need to solve the problem first, and then set a goal. If a person has a fear of failure, he should first face it before setting out to achieve the goal. If a person does not achieve the goal, he should look for reasons for not achieving the goal in what he did, and not in his own person. Is failure always a failure? Or does he say something about what we do and how we assess circumstances?

How do you motivate yourself to achieve a goal?

First, be cruelly honest with yourself. That’s rule number one.

Ask yourself the following questions:

  • Do I really want that (goal)? – Sometimes people convince themselves that they want something, and when they get it, they realize that it is not what they really need. This is often the case when a person wants something to compensate for a problem or shortcoming.
  • What do I expect to get when I achieve my goal?
  • What desires will I satisfy when I achieve my goal? – How will I feel when I get what I want?
  • What resources do I need to achieve this goal? – What do I need to learn, do, or change in myself in order to achieve that goal?
  • How much effort do I have to make to achieve that goal?
  • Am I willing to put in the effort to get to the end?
  • What obstacles may arise on the way to achieving the goal?
  • What is the relationship between profit and loss? That is, what is the relationship between profit and labor that I need to invest in? If that attitude is positive, it means that I am motivated.

Can I do that?

 

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