When our self-confidence is higher, it is easier to deal with stress and anxiety, we do not see situations in which we are rejected as failures and we get back on track faster.
Self-confidence affects not only how we think, but also how we feel and behave. It is closely related to most things that happen to us in life. Therefore, it can have positive or negative consequences on our relationships, work, the way we take care of ourselves and others.
People who have healthy self-confidence, even when going through difficult life situations such as breakups, illness, dismissal… return to the track much faster than people who do not have it at all. Even if they do not succeed in something they have imagined, people with healthy self-confidence critically observe the situation in which they find themselves. They evaluate what went wrong, so that they would know better next time.
Below, I will give you facts that you did not know about self-confidence?!
There are different types of self-confidence!
Our self-confidence can be general – how we experience ourselves, general and specific – how we see and evaluate ourselves in specific life roles: me as a parent, me as a partner, me as a professional in my profession… Although there are many domains through which we can assess self-confidence, it is normal that not all of them have the same weight and value.
Self-confidence in a certain sphere of life affects, more or less, general self-confidence!
The more importance you give to a certain life role, the more it will affect your general self-confidence. For example, if you played tennis with friends and lost a match, it will most likely not shake you.
However, if you are a professional tennis player and you played badly, even that one competitive match can greatly affect your assessment of yourself in that domain.
Self-confidence can vary from day to day or from hour to hour!
It is perfectly normal to wake up one day and feel better or worse in our skin. There is a widespread opinion as to, whether or not, you have high self-confidence, but things are not so black and white. It can vary depending on what words you say to yourself that day and what they say to you and how the surrounding people address you.
More self-confidence does not mean a better life!
Ideally, your self-esteem should be high, but not too high. People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder only seem to have a high opinion of themselves, but their self-confidence is, in fact, very unstable and fragile. It is enough to give them even mild criticism and they may feel attacked and shaken. That is why people who really have high self-confidence are more stable and psychologically healthier than those who only seem to have a very high opinion of themselves.
Self-confidence is not directly related to physical appearance!
Studies have shown that people with low and high self-esteem were rated by other people as equally attractive. What makes the difference is the performance itself!
People who have more self-confidence, feel better in their body, walk and speak more confidently, dress more attractively.
People who lack self-confidence leave a weaker impression on the environment due to their behavior, manner of communication and body language.
People with lower self-confidence, do not know how to private compliment!
People with lower self-confidence show, in a way, aversion to compliments and positive comments. They feel as if they are not worthy of praise and are often under stress, because they think that praise carries higher expectations.
Positive affirmations make people with low self-esteem feel even worse!
People with low self-esteem who feel that they are in need of positive affirmation in order to feel better are more likely to feel worse when they say it. When it is uttered so differently from what they actually think of themselves, it is normal that they cannot privatize and adopt it. When someone, in general, feels weak and insecure, talking out loud about how powerful they feel will not change the situation much. On the contrary!
Most self-confidence programs are not effective!
Studies have shown that, although the current trend, most programs that aim to increase self-confidence are not particularly successful. It turns out that, after going through one such program, you tend to think for a while that your self-confidence is higher than it was, when in fact it is the same!
More self-confidence is great for the emotional immune system!
When our self-confidence is higher, we find it easier to deal with stress and anxiety, we do not see situations in which we are rejected as failures, we consolidate faster and continue where we left off. In this way, our self-confidence functions as an emotional immune system, which in a quick and efficient way, “fixes” all emotional and psychological “injuries”.
Most of the damage to self-confidence is done by ourselves!
If you pay attention, you will notice that you most often address yourself with words of criticism, list flaws, call yourself derogatory names and practically lower yourself even more when you already feel bad. You believe that you did not get or achieve something, because you “did not even deserve it”, that it is better to have lower expectations of yourself and the environment, that negative thoughts will help you stay grounded.
And, in fact, you would be amazed at how your self-confidence would only flourish if you stopped unnecessary self-criticism and bad words.
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