The wisdom of life is reflected in the fact that in everything you do, experience, or what is happening around you, there is something positive and something negative at the same time. This is the principle of Yin and Yang. If you enjoy something, it’s nice and good, but if you overdo it, it will cost you. Your life is the result of your choices, your decisions. Each of your decisions has its positive and negative implications. Everything that happens negatively in your life also has its positive implications, because we learn and develop from such experiences.
I guess you knew that before, but you didn’t pay enough attention to it. Now that you have remembered this principle of life, the question arises, what is its practical application? If there is a positive and a negative side to the medal in everything, the question arises as to which side of the medal we will mainly focus on.
People have a limited capacity for attention and cannot focus on two opposing experiences at the same time. For example, we cannot be angry and enchanted by a person at the same time, these two states can change, but they cannot happen at the same time. Therefore, it remains for us to choose what we will primarily pay attention to. Is the glass half empty or half full? So we have freedom of choice!
Focus on the positive! How to apply it in practice?
As human beings, we constantly evaluate something, that is, we evaluate something as good (pleasant, tasty, fragrant …) or bad (unpleasant, nasty, smelly …). We evaluate everything from weather conditions, food, smells, human qualities, our mood… Evaluating means sticking something good or bad to something. Optimists are people who use ethics much more often than etiquette badly. They simply focus on the good, positive things and aspects of life and tend to find the good and the positive even where it doesn’t seem like it at first glance. This is the directorate in observation.
Optimists are simply calibrated to perceive the positive and focus on the positive. They do it almost without any effort because it is their mental habit, a program that runs automatically without investing much conscious effort. But what to do with those who do not have this habit? It is necessary to create this habit. In order for a habit to be created and become an automatic program, repetition is required.
Scientists claim that the process of forming a habit lasts at least 21 days or three weeks of daily repetition of a behavior. In the beginning, repetition is done with the intention and with the investment of conscious effort, and as the process proceeds, the amount of conscious effort decreases, and the whole process gradually becomes automated.
How to develop the habit of looking positively at yourself, others, and life in general?
Give yourself the task to consciously find something positive in everything that happens in or around you, as many times as you can every day.
For example, pay attention to pleasant scents, colors, weather conditions, natural landscapes around you, and pleasant sensations … Pay attention and notice people you appreciate and love, and remember why you appreciate and love them. Find in other people you value less and love something positive, try to find out what is positive about them. Strive to discover in yourself what is positive in your daily behavior. Pay attention to your surroundings and notice everything you like, from colors to designs. During the day, remember at least three pleasant experiences from your recent or past history. Invoke those memories and allow yourself to experience pleasant feelings as much as you are able. Think of the pleasant things you want to do in the future.
If you run into some problems, think of them as challenges. Find out what you will gain by solving these problems, what you will learn, and what conclusions you will draw. In short, try to notice the positive things around you and in you as much as possible every day. Repeat this every day for at least three weeks. Repetition is the key to success. Repetition will create your new positive habit. If at first, you notice that it is not easy for you, do not be discouraged. Everything you learn new doesn’t go smoothly at first – if it did, then you wouldn’t even have to learn it. Be persistent and dedicated to this task every day and you will see what changes will occur in your mood, thinking, and behavior. When you continue to do this, other people around you will notice these positive changes in you and will strive to be close to you.
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