In the previous contents, I wrote about change and how we can achieve it!
In this content entitled “How to change your thoughts and your life?”, I will give you the relationship between a woman and her psychologist, where you will see a concrete example of where the problems are when it comes to change, how to approach them and how to approach them and solving them?
I don’t know how I do it?
I don’t know how I do it, but negative thoughts don’t stop circling in my head. I will divide this problem into several parts:
Constant return to the past and questions: “Why did I do that? Why didn’t I do that? ” (mostly it all revolves around a few of the SAME things, events).
Unconscious (against your will) imagining a bad, catastrophic future, fears and phobias!
Often my thoughts wander to the past, although I try to bring them back and direct them in another direction. Well, the past is the past and somehow I can already bear it, because I am aware that it is the past, but then when I think about the future, I can’t describe to you what black thoughts come to me (I don’t even know where!). It extends to the point that I think there will be war and similar misfortunes. People around me don’t even think about such things, they live life, they enjoy it, and I’m always in a convulsion.
If something hurts me a little, I immediately worry that it’s not the worst. The news scares me, when I hear that there was an earthquake somewhere – I can’t stop thinking for days about what if I am here too?!
If I hear that there is a war in a country, I ask myself: “Alas, what if it spreads to the whole world”.
If someone is sick somewhere, I immediately ask myself: “Alas, what if it happens to me?”
Let’s face it, I haven’t always been this way. I think that all that comes with age, I don’t know why, probably because a person becomes more and more aware of the world around him and more frightened. But, if I really don’t do something with all those thoughts and fears now, then what can I expect in 10, 20 years???
In addition to all these fears and anxieties, I also have certain phobias. I am afraid of heights and flying, I am afraid of spiders and small insects. I don’t know why, but it seems to me that I can master these things more easily than all the above that I have listed before.
There is no way I can start doing something, e.g. to practice and make it my daily life, it all takes 10 days… Anything to do is like that… I wrote down goals, divided them into smaller ones, but somehow it seems to me that I don’t have enough motivation.
To finish my story…
Since I moved to Belgrade (the capital of Serbia), my life has changed. A lot of beautiful things have happened to me in the past year. But, on the other hand, I’m always afraid that something bad will happen… as if I’m not aware that I deserve to be happy, maybe I think I don’t really deserve it, I don’t know?
You know when it means something to you in life, or it actually means everything to you, so you are afraid of losing it in any way and you are constantly in some doubts, questions, anxieties. You can’t relax and enjoy what you have. I have some chronic fear of the future. What will happen? What? What? What? I don’t know where my fear comes from.
You know, it’s weird to come somewhere, to a new city, then it’s hard to find the right people to work with.
This winter was awful, I spent more time alone at home and I think I retreated a lot into myself, to the point that sometimes I can no longer recognize myself in some situations or with people.
I just pulled myself together. I have a problem finding people to hang out with here, really all this is new to me. Maybe I just need to give myself more time.
I have changed. I’m more shy, I talk less in society, I often have nothing to say, “I’m not here”, I don’t have energy.
I used to always be fun and smiling in company and somehow… I don’t know… everyone would notice me, and now like that, I’m just sitting in some company, and as if I’m on another planet, there’s no energy from me to scream…
I have too much free time and then I just THINK, what will happen, what happened, why, how?
From month to month I promise myself to START EXERCISING! And I don’t do that! I start, sloppy, for a few days and don’t continue! Simply, the day comes when I don’t feel like exercising. Then the next day, so again, so some minor obligations come and go like that for five days, then my will is lost and every month like that… Don’t I love myself enough to give my body what it needs? What’s the matter? And in fact I like to exercise, I like to run, to do gymnastics, exercises… I love it all! What about me, I really don’t know?
I just need some driving force, perseverance … I need something to get me out of the hole… out of this rut, depression or whatever? I just need strength, will and perseverance for everything! And where can I find it and keep it?
I mean, I’ve always been like that, how many times in my life have I started something and stopped, e.g. exercise? WHY would it be different now?
I’m starting to think that I’m just so “unstable” in school, I always studied only before the control, at the faculty, always only before the exam, I never had work habits.
I wish I was the person pushing to get what he wants! And I never pushed myself. I always stood aside, so what I get – I get.
I’ve been fighting with myself for a long time… some things that I can’t accept in my personality… and I can’t even change them… I know I’ve been fighting that for years and again nothing, I’m still the same. Then I wonder that maybe now I can’t change anything anymore, because every person develops by the age of 5… and those qualities that you acquire by then, remain in you forever. I drew the goals, underlined them and divided them into smaller, daily, monthly ones – but again I am lazy and dissatisfied and I don’t know how to proceed!
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