Set your goals, but then hesitate and procrastinate. Write a to-do list, but don’t stick to it. And all this is repeated over and over again. It is time to ask: what is the problem?
Why do we know what we should do, but we are terrible when it comes to concretization and when we should really do those things?
The problem is that we skip one basic step.
What mistake do we often make?
When we try to be productive, we rarely take into account the power of emotions, and they are a basic and inevitable part of the question of purpose – questions about why people do what they do.
We cannot ignore our emotions. In the opposition of reason and feelings, because of the way our brain is built, feelings almost always win. We can’t even fight our emotions. Researchers say that by opposing them, we are actually strengthening them.
During one research on the influence of emotions, one group of people was verbally presented with an unfortunate event, but they were instructed not to feel sad about it. They felt much worse than the other group of people who were informed about the unfortunate event, but were not told how they should feel. Grieving people who have lost a loved one and who put in the most effort to avoid feeling pain, it takes much longer to recover from the loss.
Our mental coping efforts are not good in sex life either. When people in the study were told not to think about sex, they were exposed to greater excitement than those who were not told to suppress such thoughts. Their degree of arousal was measured by the electronic conductivity of the skin.
How, then, does the inevitable power of feeling affect motivation?
Emotions are an essential part of executing any plan. Focus on them. It is not enough just to know something to make a change.
We have to think to plan, but we need to feel to activate. When the thinking part is over, how do you stimulate your emotions and finally start finishing things?
Motivate yourself with three scientifically proven steps!
Below, I will list three steps that can help you achieve your goals and desires.
When do we procrastinate the most? When we are in a bad mood.
Postponement of obligations manages our mood, but in the short term. By far the most procrastinating is among bad-tempered students who believed that their mood could change by having access to fun distractions.
Researchers have proven that happiness increases productivity and makes us more successful.
Why does the military teach recruits when it wants to mentally strengthen them? No, don’t teach them hand-to-hand combat. Teach them optimism.
But how do you become optimistic if you don’t feel that way? Observe your daily progress and celebrate it. Nothing is as motivating as progress.
This is a scheme of the principle of progress: Of all the positive events that affect our inner working life, the only most powerful is the progress of meaningful work. Of all the negative events, the only one that is the most powerful, which is contrary to progress, is a standstill at work.
It is believed that this should be the basis of management principles: Facilitating progress is the most effective way for managers to influence internal working life.
Here, we have seen that negativity will only help us to continue postponing obligations and will keep us trapped in stagnation or setback. Besides positively, what else can push us forward?
Rewards bring good feelings. Rewards motivate us and make us know why we do the things we want and that make sense.
Knowing the reward we will receive is the most important factor in predicting commitment and job satisfaction of any individual. Awards make up 75% of personal motivation for achievement. Let us remind you, they do not have to be of a financial nature.
Suddenly, your to-do list will become very important. Now that you know how to start thinking positively and once you understand how rewards and punishments are used, what else is needed?
Researchers have shown that peer pressure helps children more than it harms them. This does not mean negative pressure, but friends who give us positive examples and who encourage us, although in the beginning we have resistance to that, because of course, no change is easy.
You need to surround yourself with the people you want to be with. When people join groups with the intention to change, the potential for achieving that change becomes much more real.
Research called the Longevity Project has interesting results on this topic. They studied more than 1,000 people from their early youth until their deaths. They say the groups we attach to often determine what type of person we will become. For people who want to improve their health, bonding with other people who care a lot about their health is often the strongest and most direct way to change.
Friendship research also confirms this. Researchers have shown that over time, we develop eating habits, healthy habits, and even career aspirations of those around us. If we are in a group of people who have very high goals, we will take the same seriousness.
How do you combine these three steps and get started?
Do you have today’s to-do list? If you have, great, and if you don’t, make it. The most rational thing you can do now is to stop being rational. Allow your emotions to develop:
• Be positive
• Reward yourself
• Allow peer pressure
Believing that you can do this is the first step to change. Think of yourself as a motivated, productive person.
Researchers have confirmed that the way people think about themselves has a huge effect on their success.
One of these studies proved that for many people, the first step towards improving their work performance had nothing to do with the job itself but with improving the opinions they have about themselves. In fact, 8 out of 10 people said that for them, the image they have of themselves greatly influences how they evaluate their business performance.
Still, not sure you’ll be able to defeat the demon of deferral? Then move on to the third step – peer pressure.
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