Caring for other people and their feelings is something that allows us to form deeper and more meaningful relationships, and empathy helps us understand them. However, when we neglect ourselves due to caring for others, it is a sign that something needs to change.
The desire to please others and help them at any cost can bring some kind of loss of individuality and even harm our health. That’s why you need to set boundaries and think about yourself, which can’t always be done overnight. The first step could be to recognize some signs that you are too nice.
These are signs that you are too nice:
You stop everything you do to help someone!
If you like to help others, even at the cost of sacrificing something that is important to you, then you are ready to compromise. However, if it is usually you who make the compromise and not the other side, you still need boundaries.
You are afraid that sometimes you will not be nice because that is part of your identity!
It’s okay to try to be nice, but not at any cost. When you are afraid of what someone will think of you if you are not nice at some point, it can have a bad effect on your mental health, and you should not feel guilty about taking care of yourself.
You feel responsible for other people’s feelings
When you realize that you are the one who cares about the feelings of friends and family members and never takes care of yourself, it’s time to stop doing that. Your words and actions affect others, but you are not the only one responsible for their lives and feelings.
You often forgive problem behaviors too easily!
Forgiving others is a virtue and is a better option than keeping anger to yourself, but for some things, you just don’t have to forgive. If you have an acquaintance who constantly fills you with negative energy, does not think about your feelings, and does not feel any guilt when it affects you badly, think about what that person brings positively. Try to draw their attention, so that all the negative energy and pressure does not affect only you. If this is not possible, stay away from such people!
At all costs, ask for someone’s approval!
You are not responsible for someone’s bad behavior and they should do their best to fix the situation, not just you. Seeking their approval and respect at the cost of changing one’s own behavior and attitude is not good and sets an unhealthy precedent.
Fineness is just a way to avoid problems!
Nobody wants to resolve conflicts that they don’t have to, and we all try to avoid them in one way or another. But when that burden falls on you alone, it can have far greater negative emotional consequences than you realize.
You tell people that everything is fine when they hurt you!
It is not always easy to say how you really feel, but sometimes it is necessary. If you care more about not insulting someone, they may start to take you for granted, instead of treating you with the respect you deserve.
You are afraid of the reactions of others to your reactions, which are a little different!
When everyone is used to you being always nice and having only reactions in accordance with their expectations, you are the ones who bear the greatest burden and are unnecessarily burdened. Everyone can be upset, disappointed, or angry, it is only important to talk about everything openly and not be afraid of anyone’s reaction.
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